Some ideas for family agreements may suit children of any age. However, some become more appropriate as your child matures and some are for parents. The checked boxes on the right of the table indicate which age group for whom the idea may be most appropriate.

Every child is unique and as a parent, you are best placed to decide which of these ideas are most suitable for your child.

 

using the internet
Ideas for young people 7-11 Yrs Old 12-14 Yrs Old 15 and Older
I will use the password we have agreed to as a family and I will not share this password with anyone (like my toothbrush) or change it without telling my parents.  
I will change my password/s regularly and I will not share my password or personal information, like my phone number or address, with anyone online or offline.
I will talk with my parents if something happens on the internet which makes me feel uncomfortable or unsafe, this includes cyber bullying.
I will actively protect my digital reputation by being responsible about what I upload, or post, or respond to on the internet.
Before posting an image I will consider the appropriateness of it and whether it could damage my reputation now or in the future  
If I am on a site that requires me to sign up for something I will ask my parents first.   
I will let my parents know what sites I am going to visit and when I am using the internet.   
I will check my digital reputation often (at least every couple of months) including both a general content search and a search of images relating to me.

Ideas for Parents

Install the family computer in an area which is shared by everyone (not children’s bedrooms).

Install virus protection software and investigate filtering software.

Establish a family email account my children can use when signing up to sites on the internet.

Preview websites of interest to your children and discuss their use of the internet with them. 

Gaming sites and virtual worlds
Ideas for young people 7-11 Yrs Old 12-14 Yrs Old 15 and Older
I will only access the gaming sites my parents have agreed to.  
I will let my parents know if I use a new game, which they are not aware of.
I will ask my parents to help me sign up for these gaming sites.    
I will ensure that I have set the privacy settings properly when signing up for online games.
I will not use voice chat in an online game environment.  
I will tell my parents if anything happens on the game which makes me feel uncomfortable or unsafe.
I agree to the time limits that have been set by our family.

Ideas for Parents

Sit with your children to sign up for games and ensure the security settings (if available) have been appropriately set.

Spend time with your children while they are playing games so you can learn how they work, ask questions and take an active interest in their online games.

As a family negotiate time limits for online games and as a parent try to ensure these time limits are adhered to.

Social Networking (including instant messenger, chat rooms, webcams, email and noticeboards)
Ideas for young people 7-11 Yrs Old 12-14 Yrs Old 15 and Older
I agree to respect the age restrictions on social networking sites.  
If I want to access these sites I will talk with my parents first.  
I agree to allow my parents to help me correctly set up my profile, including appropriate security settings.
I will talk with my parents about images, which are appropriate or inappropriate to post online.
I will only post pictures of my friends or other peoples with their permission.
I agree not to use private chat rooms and will only use webcams in shared family spaces.
I will let my parents know if I am being cyber bullied and agree to not cyber bully others.
I will only accept friends onto my SNS accounts that I know offline.  
I will manage my list of friends to ensure I feel comfortable with who is on these lists and the type of information I share with them.
Before posting an image I will consider the appropriateness of it and whether it could damage my reputation now or in the future.
I agree to the time limits negotiated by my family and accept I am responsible for managing my time.

Ideas for Parents

Spend time ensuring your children’s SNS is correctly set up with appropriate privacy settings. more information

Make time to regularly discuss with your children who their friends are on their SNS.

As a family negotiate place and time limits for using SNS.

Mobile Phones
Ideas for young people 7-11 Yrs Old 12-14 Yrs Old 15 and Older
I understand there are certain times when I cannot use my mobile phone, I agree to turn it off and leave it in a family space after bedtime.
I will not take and/or share photographs of other people without their permission.
I will text appropriately; including not forwarding hurtful messages or pictures, and will let my parents know if I am receiving nasty messages on my phone.
I will not accept credit or share credit with my friends without the permission of my parents.

Ideas for Parents

Find out what your children’s phones are capable of and discuss this with them (ie internet connection, Bluetooth etc).

Agree what is and is not appropriate use of the internet on your child‘s mobile phone or, alternatively ask the phone company to disable the internet from your children’s phones.

Discuss with your children the possible implications (both legal and social) of using their mobile phone inappropriately.

Discuss mobile phone plans with your child prior to agreeing to one. If you choose a plan where your child has the capacity to overspend, ensure it is clearly understood who is responsible for the extra costs which may be involved.

Arrange for dual access on your child‘s phone. Decide if you would like to read your child‘s text messages and discuss this with your child prior to doing it.

File sharing (P2P) (including downloading music)
Ideas for young people 7-11 Yrs Old 12-14 Yrs Old 15 and Older
I will only download music from the sites agreed to with my parents.
I will be careful with whom I share my private files (such as school work, personal photos, personal blogs etc).

Ideas for Parents

Enable safe and legal downloading of music for your children by signing up to a provider such as iTunes.

If your children are using an illegal site to download music, discuss this with them and ensure the settings on the site are such that other internet users do not have access to all your files.

Sharing images electronically (online or via mobile phone)
Ideas for young people 7-11 Yrs Old 12-14 Yrs Old 15 and Older
I will immediately delete any inappropriate content I receive either via the Internet or mobile phone.
I will not send or forward inappropriate content to others. I understand in many instances forwarding inappropriate content of a sexual nature can be illegal and I (and the recipient) could face criminal charges.
I will not send or forward inappropriate content to others. I understand in many instances forwarding inappropriate content of a sexual nature can be illegal and I (and the recipient) could face criminal charges.
I will let my parents know if I am receiving inappropriate, distressing or upsetting content on my phone or online.
I will seek help and assistance from a trusted adult(s) if I make a mistake.

Ideas for Parents

Inform your child that sharing nude photos of teens (referred to as 'sexting‘) is illegal. (Note: children may be criminally liable from the age of 10 in Australia), even if the photo is of themselves.

Talk to your child about the moral and legal consequences of engaging in this behaviour now and later (e.g. in work force) to help them to understand the risks associated with this behaviour.

Find out how to manage access to adult content and similar services offered by your internet provider and your child‘s mobile phone carrier. This information may be available on the provider company's website (e.g. Telstra).

Teach your children how to deal with disturbing material. For example, don't respond if you are being sent something inappropriate and immediately hang up if you receive a call that makes you feel uncomfortable or that you worry about.